quixotic: Fandom | Ava's Demon (Envision the future)
The Windmill Lover ([personal profile] quixotic) wrote2009-12-19 08:34 pm

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It's funny how little things do still get to me. And while,  I get them under control, most of the time, I'm easily upset. I've learned better, to rationalize and waits things out. I have patience and I've learned to judge things equally. But sometimes,  and I suppose it is the same for all of us, that when someone has a negative opinion of a thing they love, it hurts. I've had people come to me and say there's nothing they love about SPN and well, SPN isn't in any way perfect, it's riddled with flaws, but I love it! And it hurts to hear things like that.

People are never the best judges. What other people love can be what other people hate. I'm guilty of it too when I talk about things I dislike. Hell, doesn't everyone bash Twilight? Even though we may have never read the books at all? I guess it applies to RP too, in its own way. I really want to change and stop disliking things because I don't understand them. I'm not sure if I can, but I'd like to. Maybe if I can make that small change, other things can change too. 

It does make me miserable when people can't enjoy what I can. I guess, in a way, it makes me feel like I've failed somewhere, that I'm not able to share it.

[personal profile] corinthian 2009-12-19 04:05 pm (UTC)(link)
As someone who is extremely picky about things on some level it isn't like judging (though a lot of the time it is) but like. . . it is okay to like and dislike things. Liking more things doesn't make you a better or more tolerant person when it comes to this kind of thing.

I think one of the great things about fandom and people and such is even if someone doesn't love the canon they can love different things from the fandom or RP.
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[personal profile] kiwikiwi 2009-12-19 04:57 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, this. There are a lot of canons represented in camp that I have no interest in, or actively dislike, but I really enjoy playing with the characters. Generally I think that's because the players then know what it is to highlight about the source/character to make it/them really interesting divorced from the context of the rest of the canon.
inarticulate: Masahiro holding Guren's hand, from Shounen Onmyouji (二度とその手を離さない)

[personal profile] inarticulate 2009-12-19 06:35 pm (UTC)(link)
This. In the end, I think it's about people having their own opinions but respecting the fact that other people will feel differently, and that's okay, too.

[personal profile] corinthian 2009-12-20 02:52 am (UTC)(link)
ilu dear also you should love me because i am watching star trek

[personal profile] corinthian 2009-12-20 02:54 am (UTC)(link)
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[personal profile] kiwikiwi 2009-12-19 05:08 pm (UTC)(link)

Yeah, that's tough. Intellectually, it's easy to say, well, everyone has different tastes and etc etc etc, but when somebody really doesn't like something I do, I end up feeling defensive -- like either I need to justify the canon or justify why I like it at all, and then I'm fussy, because whyyyy can't I just like things in peeeaaaace.
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[personal profile] hesternal 2009-12-19 05:39 pm (UTC)(link)
I feel the same way. I try to remember that just because someone says they don't like something, it doesn't mean they think nobody should like it, or anyone who likes it is an awful human being, but that's the automatic feeling I get when I hear it.
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[personal profile] comfortingsounds 2009-12-21 10:35 am (UTC)(link)
This is a really useless and late comment but I'm just sitting here missing you badly and I probably should just go to bed, but I can understand that feeling because it happens to me. But the comments here are more helpful and, again, late. IDK. I just love you. ♥